Planning is fundamental to establishing ongoing quality couple time together. They say that if you fail to plan you are planning to fail and that is true for us in marriage. We think that because we stay together we have all the time together. But that is a fallacy. I learned long time ago that I had to factor my wife into my busy schedule because we found ourselves living like college room-mates. Mondays used to be my off day as a Pastor and those were the days I used to plan my week. One day after looking at my seemingly busy schedule, my wife asked me a very powerful question, “Honey, where do I fit in this schedule of yours?” It suddenly hit me that I was planning time for everyone else except the one I promised to ‘have and to hold’.
Wayne Rickerson, author of We Never Have Time Just for Us, feels that recognition of neglect is crucial to any remedy in a suffering relationship. “We do not into marriage thinking, ‘our plan is to have fun and excitements, share goals and interests for the first two years, and then neglect these areas.’ But we invite neglect into our marriage when we do not plan ways to have fun and excitement, share interests and set common goals,” he explains.
Couples who really desire, and I repeat, who really desire more time together make more time available to be together. They meet for lunch, go for jogging early in the morning, take an evening walk together, call each other during the day and yes, set aside a time of day, prime time, “just for us.” And once they have done that, they jealously guard that time and turn down invitations and appointments, yes even important ones because they value time alone together.
"Love is spelled T I M E"
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