ENCOURAGING YOUR MAN

I, Gracie, did it again? What do you think this means? 

The other day, my husband came home stressed up because the deadline had passed for him to hand in an important assignment. His computer was “acting up”.  He had tried to do all that he could but nothing seemed to be working.  The minute he stepped into the house I could tell from the man’s face that something was truly, truly wrong.  I immediately embarked on a journey of straightening my communication skills and said to myself “Daughter of Ahere, watch what you say”.

Like a wonderful wife, I tried making him a cup of tea but this did not go down well.  The man was going through so much and it was becoming more and more obvious.  We tried to make a few phone calls just to try and get the assignment out of the way, but it was one of those days when the computers decided to go on strike.  It got to a point where we had to take a walk from one cyber to another but alas! What we found were closed doors whispering, “Sorry we are closed for the day”. How frustrating this was, now, to both of us.  Humanly speaking, I asked myself why the assignment was not sent earlier (my flesh), but deep down inside my spirit  I knew that my encouragement was more important than knowing the answer to this question.  I said again to myself “Daughter of Ahere, wife of Barnabas, love on and encourage your husband”

Once again, like a wonderful wife, I started encouraging my hubby by telling him that it was not his fault.  I kept telling him “pole” (sorry) for all he was going through and even put my hand on his shoulder.  Well, at the end of all this, we ended up sending the assignment the following day. 

What I did not realize was that through out that evening I was depositing into the love bank.  My husband felt so supported and encouraged.  Infact at the end of the day these were his words, “Honey, thank you for your support and encouragement.”  Wow!  That made me blush. I felt so good about this and it made me feel like doing it again and again aaand again.

One thing stood out for sure in this whole drama, that men need a lot of support and encouragement from their wives especially when they are going through difficult moments. When they take the turns in their lives you need to be there with them holding on tightly like one being carried on a pikipiki going at full speed around a bend. In Genesis we see God made a helper meet (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him. You help your husband a great deal by supporting and encouraging him especially during those tough times, when he has lost his job, or when his boss has made him feel like a dot especially when he has a female boss. 

When was the last time you encouraged your husband? As a wife, you need to be your hubby’s greatest fan. He must know that he is your hero. Woman, your finger is on the trigger of your man’s ego more than anyone else. Of all people, a man wants to hear those encouraging words from his wife. When a husband is encouraged especially by his wife, he can take the whole world down.  He will glow, though he has made mistakes, he will rise up again and go for it. So why not be gracious and do it again whether he notices your encouragement or not.  I can assure you that, though he may say nothing, deep down inside he appreciates it and this makes him feel like a man again. Common Lady you have got what it takes to make that man be all that God made him to be.