An affair is one of the worst things that can happen
in a marriage. It completely affects your relationship and if not handled well
has the potential of killing it and greatly affecting one’s life. My intention
here is obviously not to advocate for affairs as they cause a lot of pain to
not just the betrayed party but also to the offender. And so let me ask you, is there hope in marriage even after an affair?
I don't know what you answer to that question is. There are those who say that this is the only grounds for a divorce. And so they say that if they find out that their spouse cheated on them they will divorce them. If that be the case where is the place of forgiveness? Now I know that whether or not a marriage can survive an affair is dependent on many things the most important being the guilty party owning up and taking responsibility for their mess and truly showing fruits worthy of of repentance.
Research carried out in the US to find out what
decision couples who had been hit by an affair made, revealed that 54% decided to stay married, 19% decided to divorce while 26% were undecided. In our experience working with couples who have found themselves in such circumstances, we have also seen that if there is a willingness for both parties to work at it, they can recover from the affair. Not only can they recover from that affair but it can end up completely transforming their relationship that the couple become more intimate than ever before.
In the coming blogs we will look at some of the things these couples have done to not only recover but to go beyond the recover.
