In our last blog we talked about the assumption that our
marriage will grow automatically. We learned that relationships and more so
marriage are easy if we just work hard at them. They prosper when and where
they are attended to. You must engage the gear it’s not an automatic car.
The second trap that we do fall in is the lack of knowledge
one. Not knowing how to do certain things like, how to communicate effectively,
how to romance your spouse, how to have a fulfilling sex life, how to meet each
other’s needs. These things again don’t just come naturally or automatically.
They have to be learned. There are several books that can help you in the
different areas of your marriage, there is the net, there are Marriage Seminars
and Retreats organized by people like us where you get to learn some of these
things. And you just don’t learn for information sake, you learn so as to put
into practice.
The more you practice it, the more it becomes a skill that
you use to grow your marriage. What we have observed with many couples is that
they lack the basic skills especially communication and conflict resolution
skills that would have saved their marriage. It is not just a matter of the
heart as many couples wish for and pray for a good marriage, but it is also a
matter of applying the right skills to have that kind of marriage that you
desire. Of course it must first start with a desire because skills without
desire, without the heart can lead to manipulation or doing things
mechanically. No one wants that in their marriage.
So having the desire to grow your marriage,
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What skills do you lack?
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What do you need to do to learn those skills?
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Where are you going to learn those skills from?
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