Focus on your circle of influence

This week (Tuesday 26th) Grace and I celebrate our 19 years of marriage.To be married to the same woman lo these many years is a great achievement for a guy like me. And to be married to only one woman for that matter is even a greater miracle. To God be the glory great things He has done especially in my life.

One crucial lesson that we have learned over those 19 years is take control of that which only we can take control of. I have learned that I have absolutely no control over how Grace will act or react in a moment of conflict but I have complete control over what my reaction will be. Instead of accusing her of making me mad I have realized that she simply pressed the wrong, or is it the right button and ‘boom!’ I went crazy and said some nasty things that I shouldn’t have.

According to Steve Covey in his book 7 habits of highly effective people, proactive people focus their efforts in the Circle of influence, things that they have control over while Reactive people focus their efforts on the circle of concern (things they have no control over or have very little control over) which results in blaming accusing attitudes. No wonder many couples spend their entire marriage life blaming and accusing each other thus the two never becoming one. 

Join us in our next School of Marriage SoMa class starting 3rd September, for more details call Grace on 0729-237766.