Why Fantasize when you can enjoy the Real Thing

Experts on the subject of sex have found that uncontrolled fantasy shortchanges reality. When we continue to fantasize about an ideal “other person,” we create an unrealistic standard by which we evaluate our lovemaking, our partner and his or her sexual responsiveness. Our sex-life is left wanting, and over time our spouse becomes less desirable because he or she can’t measure up. We tell ourselves that sex will never be the way we want it to be, so why put forth the effort? 

And this leads to a frustration that makes us not to function at the junction. Instead of dealing with the fantasies and replacing them with reality we start chasing the mirage so to speak. It is important that we then deal with those seemingly "little foxes" that spoil our vineyard. Fantasy is one of those "little Foxes". Why fantasize when you can enjoy the real thing. And to enjoy the real thing requires time and effort. Being intentional, talking about your sex life as a couple, and willing to learn from that expert you live with, your spouse.

This and much more is what we covered during our last weekends Song of Song - A Duet married couples seminar. We believe that what we learned together will be put into practice so that intimate part of our marriage will be a joy.

"Let your fountain be blessed, and take pleasure in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful fawn - let her breasts always satisfy you; be lost in her love."- Proverbs 5:18,19

Coming soon - Couples Vision Retreat October 19th-21st. Watch this spce for more details