MY WIFE AND I ARE BACK TOGETHER

You must have read the title and wondered when my wife Grace and I separated. My wife Grace has been away for three weeks. She led a team of Kenyan Students to the International Students Convention in the US.

Before she left I was wondering how I would survive with my three children but I can gladly report that I survived to tell the story. The past three weeks I have been what they call FAMY or KANU (Baba na Mama). I have had to rediscover my culinary skills and how to manage a household especially kitchen matters. This is the first time in a long while that Grace has been away alone as mostly we travel together with her or it’s me who is away. I have really learned a lot during this past three weeks.

The first lesson has been to appreciate my wife. As a man I realized that I have often times underestimated the importance of my wife’s role in the family. I have sometimes wondered why she sometimes complains a lot that she is tired. Managing those three kids, knowing what they are going to eat, homeschooling them and making sure that we have enough groceries in the house is quite something. So I’m coming out of this season of my life with awe of my wife. You see the more you stay together as a couple, the more likely you are to take each other for granted. I have taken my wife and her role in the house for granted and it is my prayer that hence forth I will constantly remember to appreciate her always.

The second lesson I have learned is the importance of connecting with my kids. Often times my wife has been there for them as a stay-at-home mum while I have been busy away trying hard to provide for them. But this past three weeks I have spent literally everyday with them and have enjoyed reconnecting with them. We have worked together, played together, and shared lots of stories together. We have become friends and this has been so fulfilling to me as much as they have also stressed me out a bit. I must say now that my relationship with my children is somewhere up there.

Lastly, I confirmed that the saying “absence makes the heart grow fonder” is on point. My feelings for my wife have intensified and I must confess I have fallen in love with her yet again. In fact today as I write this I have declared a personal holiday so that I can just hang-out with her. Today I will celebrate my love for her!