Till “D” Do Us Part

“I Gracie take you Barnie to be my lawful wedded husband, to love and hold, in sickness and in health for richer for poorer, till death do us part.  This is my vow I give to you.” 

Do these words ring a bell or do you hear the bells ringing without these words?  How many times have you attended weddings and visualized yourself as the bride?  Imagine you walking down the aisle once again in your “Kate” lassed dress, not to mention the corset that’s holding everything together and all that the makeup is hiding.  So where were we?  Would the vows change this second time?  Would it go like this, “ I take you to be my awful wedded hurb, to love but not to hold especially after midnight.  For richer and definitely not for poorer (we ‘ve  eaten enough vegetables), for better and certainly not for worse (what could be worse than sitting in the living room waiting for him to come home after promising to be home in the next ten minutes), in health yes, but not in sickness  aaaai, the kids have taken me through enough, till death, oh! sorry till my girlfriend Diana do us part or I say till Dennis in the office puts us apart as he meets my emotional  needs.  You see, I need affection.  I need love.  It’s called “catching up with my buddies” not hanging out with the wrong company.  “One can really get lonely”, you argue.

So what would your vows sound like  this time?  Do you feel guilty?  Ouch!  Maybe we didn’t take the original vows seriously because we were busy planning for the wedding and thinking of the honeymoon. But it’s now too late to change our minds, however we can change our attitudes towards each other. So there’s no harm in writing the vows on a piece of paper and exchanging them again.  This time look right into his lovely eyes and mean what you say.  Line upon line let it sink deep inside like an iron sheet piercing the side of your belly.  Let it be real.Thought through seriously, these vows are very heavy and as you say them who knows if the feelings will come again and follow your commitment. It may just be a new beginning for the two of you, a kind of being married again experience like the one of being born again. It’s an experience you will never forget. And of course the mark is forever there.  Let your yes be, yes, “I do” as God guides you.  Remember that it’s not by power nor by might but by the Spirit of God.  By the grace of God we can make the vows again and intentionally work hard to keep them. Let the celebrations now begin and yes, have another honeymoon.