SHARED EXPERIENCES

Last weekend we had a graduation class for our School of Marriage class. An 8 week program that is geared towards helping married couples successfully navigate the conflict stage of their relationship by understanding each other in a deeper way. Our Coach trainer Dr. Les Brickman, who was our Chief Guest spoke of two important things that he believes, contributes to the two becoming one and remaining one in marriage.

First he talked of the importance of shared experiences. When husband and wife share certain experiences together, it goes a long way in cementing their relationship. These shared experiences can be simple things like having meals together, praying together, going to Church together, being involved with each other and in each others professions and hobbies. Talking and asking about each others jobs, getting to know what they are experiencing at work can be a very powerful shared experience.

Shared experiences can be the high times in your marriage like a vacation abroad together or some painful experiences like going through a loss in the family. Whichever way, let it be something that bonds you together even the more. Plan doing things together as this produces togetherness and shared memories. Grace and I work together, we do our conferences together and also love to relax and watch a good movie together. These shared experiences have drawn us more closer than anything else.

Women are more naturally inclined to want to share their experiences with their husbands but for the men it doesn’t come naturally. We must consciously make the effort, be intentional in allowing our wives into our lives for that shared experience to be realized.

Next week we will look at the second thing that Les talked about. Check out our graduation photos on our Two Ships Facebook page.