A lot of people are afraid of deep relationships because of
the fear of the unknown. When I trust
you with the knowledge about who I am and what I am, I am risking myself to
you. I want to trust you to accept me and anything I share with you. You could
reject me, or make fun of me, or be confused about me. It will be risky, but it
will be the only way to develop a deep relationship between us.
We fear to be hurt again. When you risk yourself to others,
you become vulnerable. The Latin root of “vulnerable,”
means “to wound.” To become
vulnerable means to be susceptible to injury, to be exposed to criticism; and
this can hurt. In fact many of us have been hurt in the past when we became
vulnerable and without knowing, vowed to ourselves that we would never trust
again. But it’s a risk worth taking.
“Jump in”, you will never overcome the fear of closeness until you take your
“leap into the dark” so to speak.
Protecting our hearts from hurt, by locking them “safely in
the coffin of selfishness” will keep them from being broken, but it will also
change them. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable,
and irredeemable. The problem is that we too often make choice to be vulnerable
or not by considering the negative consequences that might result from being
vulnerable rather than thinking about the positive implications it has to our
psychological well-being. That’s the risk we take.
Join my wife and I as we speak during the Citam's He's ministry this Friday between 2:15 and 5:00pm. All you men are invited. Will be talking on Relationships.
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