Exactly a week from today we are going to be celebrating Valentine's day. This is a day when they say "love is in the air". A day when lovers express their love for each other. It's a day which my wife aptly describes as the day in which love "opoto", meaning love is in abundance. It's a day when even the coldest of guys becomes romantic.
What I keep wondering though, especially for those of us who are married, is why we don't behave this way all year round, everyday being a valentine's day. Now there is nothing wrong with celebrating our love as marrieds on this particular day. But the challenge to us is that romance becomes a part of doing life together. What is romance anyway?
Last week while talking on the popular radio show the Closet, it just hit me that many people don't even know what it means to be romantic. We all have all these crazy, movies and soap operas idea of romance and wonder if that kind of romance is even sustainable in marriage.Someone has said that, “Marriage is like a hot bath. Once you get in it, and used to it, it’s not so hot anymore.” Indeed, one thing you can count on in marriage, even the sexiest and tightest of unions, is that between kids and careers and the junk that clutters the days, it’s hard to sustain hotness and bliss. Despite tepid stretches, showing your love well beyond Valentine’s Day is a sure-fire way to stoke a marriage that can last.
Last week while talking on the popular radio show the Closet, it just hit me that many people don't even know what it means to be romantic. We all have all these crazy, movies and soap operas idea of romance and wonder if that kind of romance is even sustainable in marriage.Someone has said that, “Marriage is like a hot bath. Once you get in it, and used to it, it’s not so hot anymore.” Indeed, one thing you can count on in marriage, even the sexiest and tightest of unions, is that between kids and careers and the junk that clutters the days, it’s hard to sustain hotness and bliss. Despite tepid stretches, showing your love well beyond Valentine’s Day is a sure-fire way to stoke a marriage that can last.
Karen Evans of Marriage Today had this to say in defining what Romance is not. "I think one of the most important things about romance is that it's not something you are asked to do. It's something you want to do because you love someone. It's the attitude of, I just love you so much, how can I surprise you? What can I do to bring a surprise and a delight into your life that you don't expect? It's that unexpected thing that just means a lot."
So what is Romance? This will be a topic for next week. We will also be delving into this topic as we define what Romance is and how you as a couple can recover your dreams as you ask each other the question, "Do I still jazz you? And "What can I do or not do to jazz you even more?" All this and much much more in our married couple's dinner and dance this Saturday, the 11th of February starting at 6pm. For more details check our website or Facebook page on events. Or simply call 0722-307185.
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