Last week I Gracie had the opportunity of sharing in our latest show "The Closet" (you better not miss it every Fridays from 11pm to 1.00am), on the top five needs of a woman.
Whereas it is impossible for your spouse to meet ALL your needs, only God can do that as Jesus said in John 6:35; “I Am the bread of life, he who comes to me will never go hungry and he who believes in me will never die.”, he or she is God's agent, God's minister to meet your deepest needs.
We cannot on ourselves provide for our needs completely. If we could, we would not need to get married. But our spouses can provide for many of the needs we cannot meet ourselves. When our spouses fulfill their biblical roles according to Ephesians 5:22-33, our needs will be met.
Women have a deep need to be loved, to feel secure in their relationship with their husband .Deep needs are like an inbuilt appetite and no matter what one does until that appetite is satisfied the need will always be there. These needs are not wants, neither are they sinful or bad. It is God in His own wisdom put them there in order for the man in her life to fulfill them.
As a husband, man, you are God’s agent to meet the need to be loved that is there in your wife and that is why God commanded “Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the Church”. In order for you to love your wife until she feels loved you need to understand the following things about her needs-;
1. She needs to be cherished. Without meaning to, a husband can completely miss one of his wife’s most important needs: to be cherished. She needs to know that she is number one in your life. If it came down to an evening with your buddies, your family, watching your Man “U”, or a night with her, she needs to know you would chose her – not because you have to, but because you want to.
2. She needs to be understood. . 1Pet 3:7 exhorts us husbands to “Live with your wives in an understanding way.” Understand that she is not a man but a woman, that she is the weaker vessel so be sensitive to her feelings. She needs to be heard, listened to, especially listening to her emotions. She feels understood when you listen and repeat back to her what she has just said.
3. She needs loyalty. She needs to know that her husband is faithful and will not have other women in his life before, besides or even behind them. She needs to know that her man can be trusted.
4. She needs open and honest communication. Women crave for meaningful conversations. After all we are verbal just as men are visual. Many a woman in marriage longs for those deep and intimate conversations that helped create your love for each other. Women connect emotionally just as men connect physically, and one way of connecting emotionally is through open and honest communication. She wants to know about you and wants to tell you about herself. She treasures the moments you spend together with her talking. She feels you are open when you say let’s talk, you pray with her, you give full attention, you discuss financial concerns.
5. She needs non-sexual affection and closeness. Her husband can touch her, hold and hug her with no agenda. She needs TLC, tender loving care. That is how you as a husband nurtures her. You show affection also by your words, for your words men, evokes your wife's beauty. It releases her to her potential. Taking walks, playing together makes the woman feel close to her husband.
“When I found the one I loved, I held on and would not let go.” - Song of Sol. 3: 4
That’s what a woman needs in case you have been wondering, She needs love.
1. She needs to be cherished. Without meaning to, a husband can completely miss one of his wife’s most important needs: to be cherished. She needs to know that she is number one in your life. If it came down to an evening with your buddies, your family, watching your Man “U”, or a night with her, she needs to know you would chose her – not because you have to, but because you want to.
2. She needs to be understood. . 1Pet 3:7 exhorts us husbands to “Live with your wives in an understanding way.” Understand that she is not a man but a woman, that she is the weaker vessel so be sensitive to her feelings. She needs to be heard, listened to, especially listening to her emotions. She feels understood when you listen and repeat back to her what she has just said.
3. She needs loyalty. She needs to know that her husband is faithful and will not have other women in his life before, besides or even behind them. She needs to know that her man can be trusted.
4. She needs open and honest communication. Women crave for meaningful conversations. After all we are verbal just as men are visual. Many a woman in marriage longs for those deep and intimate conversations that helped create your love for each other. Women connect emotionally just as men connect physically, and one way of connecting emotionally is through open and honest communication. She wants to know about you and wants to tell you about herself. She treasures the moments you spend together with her talking. She feels you are open when you say let’s talk, you pray with her, you give full attention, you discuss financial concerns.
5. She needs non-sexual affection and closeness. Her husband can touch her, hold and hug her with no agenda. She needs TLC, tender loving care. That is how you as a husband nurtures her. You show affection also by your words, for your words men, evokes your wife's beauty. It releases her to her potential. Taking walks, playing together makes the woman feel close to her husband.
“When I found the one I loved, I held on and would not let go.” - Song of Sol. 3: 4
That’s what a woman needs in case you have been wondering, She needs love.
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