According to the LOVE DARE, rudeness is unnecessarily saying or doing things that are unpleasant for another person to be around. Rude behavior may seem insignificant to the person doing it, but its unpleasant to the person on the receiving end.
It is very easy to be at our best behavior with strangers but when it comes to our spouse, we so often tend to let our guard down and can sometimes be very rude to them. We tend to justify our behavior or totally ignore our spouse's complaints. We insist that's who I am. Bad behaviors like poor table manners, making sarcastic jokes or having a bad mouth can easily ruin your relationship. What does your spouse complain a lot about? What irritates them? Grace hates it when I make sarcastic quips. I have learned to be conscious of this and now I try my best to be more courteous with her and not to make those sarcastic quips.
We sometimes act as if we cannot change these behaviors. But when we can for example, you may be barking or pouting around the house, but if the phone rings , you answer all smiling and kind with a very soft and appealing voice. See, in one minute you are transformed from that rough barking person to this sweet nice person. Why don't we do the same for our spouse? Let love motivate you to make the needed changes in your behavior and you will see how the quality of your marriage relationship improves.
What has your spouse been complaining a lot about? What ONE behavior do you think or feel that if you changed will make your spouse happy and no longer complain? Why don't you make it your goal this year to change that behavior for the sake of your marriage relationship? Remember, rude behavior may seem insignificant to the person doing it, but its unpleasant to the person on the receiving end.
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