WHAT IS LOVE GUYS?

It is said that Cyrus, the founder of the Persian Empire, once had captured a prince and his family. When they came before him, the monarch asked the prisoner, "What will you give me if I release you?" "The half of my wealth," was his reply. "And if I release your children?" "Everything I possess." "And if I release your wife?" "Your Majesty, I will give myself." Cyrus was so moved by his devotion that he freed them all. As they returned home, the prince said to his wife, "Wasn't Cyrus a handsome man!" With a look of deep love for her husband, she said to him, "I didn't notice. I could only keep my eyes on you- -the one who was willing to give himself for me."

That is what love is, a willingness to give yourself for your loved one especially your spouse. Men that is what women want. This is every woman’s dream. This is what Christ did for His bride, He gave His life for her and in the same way, husbands need to give their lives for their brides. This is what the Apostle Paul meant when he said husbands love your wives as Christ loved the Church. As we celebrate this month of love we want to remind the husbands to love their wives in this manner, by giving themselves for her.

How do we do this? By listening to her without thinking of a solution to her problems. Just give her a listening ear, feel with her and connect with her at a very deep level. This takes time; it means giving up everything just to be with her and to listen to her 5000 words. It takes you giving up your solution oriented approach to issue as a man and feeling with her, having that eye contact, touching her and being very present in the moment.

You can also do this by spending financially on her, lavishing her with a little luxury. Pay for a massage for her; take her out in her favorite restaurant. It can also be as simple as giving her a break with the kids and letting her go have fun with the girls. It may mean coming home early once or twice a week. Whatever sacrifices it takes to meet her need in a meaningful way to her (not to you), that is how you demonstrate your love for your wife. That is how Christ love's her bride.