A story is told about this Pastor who wanted to demonstrate
how loving the men in his church were. So one Sunday morning he asked all the
men to move to one side of the aisle. All the men except one man moved to one
side of the isle. The Pastor was not happy with all the men who moved but was very
impressed by this one man who remained seated next to his wife. And so he asked
him why he hadn’t moved and this was the man’s response, “Sir, I really wanted
to move but my wife dared me to move. She told me that if I moved I should know
where I’m going after the service.” So the man didn’t move simply because he
loved his wife but rather because he feared her threat.
There are women who can scare the socks out of many men
(though the men won’t admit it). One of our most popular blogs was the one on
THE DOMINANT WOMAN where we talked about how this lady Cathy had completely dominated
her husband Dave in their marriage. Whereas society condemns and vilifies such
women, what they don’t know and even the ladies themselves don’t know is that
this is a symptom of a deeper underlying issue.
According to John and Stasi Elderedge in their book “The
Captivating Woman” the major issue here is that these women want to be in
control that’s why they are domineering. This problem begun from the very
beginning with the fall of man. Fallen Eve controls her relationships. She
refuses to be vulnerable. If she cannot secure her relationships, then she
kills her heart’s longing for intimacy so that she will be safe and in control.
She becomes a woman “who doesn’t need anyone-especially a man.” Far too many
women forfeit their femininity in order to feel safe and in control. Their
strength feels more masculine than feminine. There is nothing alluring, nothing
inviting, and nothing tender or merciful about them. By living a controlling
and domineering life, they are really refusing to trust God and something
precious in them is also lost.
