GREAT MARRIAGES DON'T JUST HAPPEN (Part 1)

Contrary to popular belief great marriages don’t just happen. It’s not just about marrying the right person for even those who thought they had married the right person and did nothing about their marriage ended up separating or having an average marriage. It’s not about wishing for and praying for a great marriage that makes it happen. For if wishes were true beggars would ride and there are some things in life that God will not do, you must do them yourself.

So what makes a great marriage? A great marriage is a life time process. Marriage is like a marathon not a sprint, so it’s not about how great you started but how you finish that matters. A great marriage takes intentionality, being deliberate to do what needs to be done to make your marriage work.  So often we assume that our marriages will grow automatically without much effort on our part. What we fail to realize is that a sailboat just allowed to follow the wind won’t end up where you intended.  

You must paddle it to the desired destination and that takes work. Paddling your boat or may I say your relationship involves doing some things that you may not be comfortable with. It may mean humbling yourself as a man to apologize to your wife. It may mean dear lady submitting to your husband even when you feel he’s not worth submitting to. It may mean investing some money in going out somewhere for a retreat just the two of you.  It may mean working through your issues to resolve that conflict.

Begin now to work on a better marriage; don’t wait for the right time. Now is the time, don’t procrastinate that date, don’t postpone that talk, don’t wait until you get a bonus to take her out. Don’t wait until it’s too late. Determine to do something this weekend, this week, this month that will transform your marriage.  

 Remember “The grass isn’t greener on the other side of the fence; grass is greener where you water it. Relationships prosper when and where they are attended to.”

THE BATTLE OF THE SEXES

Have you heard the statement “What a man can do a Woman can do better”. This seems to be the new mantra for empowered women in the market place. But how does this play out in relationships and marriage in particular? Are women usurping the man’s responsibility in the home and where are the men? Why are men afraid to commit and is it okay for a woman to approach a man?

Did you know that besides infidelity and money, the fight for equality is emerging as the "modern" cause of marriage breakdowns in Kenya, more so among women? And that 76 percent of men in Kenya who are divorced or separated say that they walked out of their marriages because their wives had become argumentative and disrespectful.

Come join us as we have a cup of Tea with Mum on Friday 8th July at Marble Arch Hotel over a conversation around this topic. In that discussion we will endeavor to find out-;

• Why are we having this problem (the battle of the sexes)?
• What was the original plan?
• How does an empowered successful woman remain submissive to her husband and how can a man lead and love such a woman in the 21^st Century?