The other day I walked into this office looking for one of
the men that has gone through our “Game-changer’ program for men. I found that
he had just stepped out for some business from this lady who had come to assist
me. As I was leaving I left a message for this man and when this dear Lady saw
my name she asked if I was the husband of one Grace Achoki who had apparently
done her bridal shower. I replied to the affirmative and she went on to tell me
how great my wife was. She left me with these words “Gosh Mr.Achoki, you have a very beautiful wife”
You would have expected my response to be something like “Of
course she is beautiful, thank you”, but I’m afraid I only said the last part
‘Thank you” inwardly being rudely awakened to the fact that yes my wife is beautiful. Now before
you blast me, I know we will not admit it, but we so often take our partners
for granted. Of course one of the reasons you married them was because they
were beautiful or handsome but as time goes by we start taking those attributes
for granted. In fact we start focusing on what they don’t have instead of
appreciating what they already have.
This is what leads to dissatisfaction with our
mates leaving us exposed to the lies of the Devil that that other woman is more
beautiful than your wife or that that other man is more understanding than your
husband. It is amazing how couples address each other or the
names they call each other when things are not going well between them. You cannot believe that these two people once upon a time were so
much in love with each other that they even couldn’t imagine living without the
other. Now here they are calling each other names and wanting out.
We tend to
devalue each other kind of how a car is devalued after a number of years and
cannot even fetch the price you bought it for. How then do we keep it fresh? Stop dwelling in the dark room developing those negatives and come out to the light where you can clearly see their value. When you do so then you will begin to appreciate them for that and thus value them for who they are in your life. It is in appreciating them that their value goes up for you cannot devalue what you appreciate.
