It always
amazes us how men and women are so different and these differences play out
during a conflict. The woman complains how her man is so withdrawn and cares
for nothing but his job not realizing that the man is wired to provide
materially for their family and that he derives his identity and self-worth
from what he does.
According to
Anastasia Toufexis, when men try to kill themselves, it is commonly out of an
injured sense of pride or competence, often related to work. On the other hand,
when women attempt suicide, it is usually because of failures involving lovers,
family, or friends. Understanding these fundamental differences can help a
couple realize what this means to each other and thus try to be sensitive
enough when dealing with issues affecting these areas of each others lives?
For example,
a wife must approach the issue of the man’s job with a lot of sensitivity,
first acknowledging and affirming her man for his competence and hard work.
Appreciate his efforts to provide for the family and shower him with her admiration.
Pay attention to what he does by developing an interest in his job. By so doing
she becomes a great friend to him.
On the other
hand, the man must realize his wife’s relational needs. He must work hard to
develop a healthy work/life balance. He must be willing to sometimes sacrifice
his work for his wife and family. When your wife sees you making that effort, sacrificing
to be with her and the kids, she will be more understanding during those
seasons when you must put in more hours to see that project accomplished.
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