According to author Daniel Goleman, although the rate per
year of divorces has more or less leveled off, the risk of divorce is on a
perilous climb. This means that the odds that a given newly married couple will
have their marriage eventually end in divorce is high.
The shift gets clearer in comparing divorce rates for
couples wed in a given year. For American marriages that began in 1890, about 10
percent ended in divorce. For those who wed in 1920, the rate was about 18
percent; for couples married in 1950, 30 percent. Couples that were newlywed in
1970 had fifty-fifty chance of splitting up or staying together. And for
married couples starting out in 1990, the likelihood that the marriage would
end in divorce was projected to be close to a staggering 67 per cent. If the
estimate holds, just three in ten of recent newlyweds can count on staying
married to their new partner.
Although these stats are from America I won’t be surprised
that the situation here in Kenya isn’t any different. The number one reason for this
alarming rate is the steady erosion of social pressures. The stigma surrounding divorce is no longer
there even in the Church. It has become something acceptable especially with
the influence of the media. Things that were once considered anathema have
become acceptable to us. Someone once said that the things we allow we
eventually accept.
What do you think we should do to reverse this trend? Your comments are highly welcome. Together we can come up with the solutions to this problem.
Coming soon-;
Couples Valentine Dinner
When? Friday the 14th of February
Where? IBS-Biblica Caledonia
How much? Kshs. 3,500/= only per couple
