WHAT IT TAKES FOR A DEEP RELATIONSHIP.

 

A lot of people are afraid of deep relationships because of the fear of the unknown.  When I trust you with the knowledge about who I am and what I am, I am risking myself to you. I want to trust you to accept me and anything I share with you. You could reject me, or make fun of me, or be confused about me. It will be risky, but it will be the only way to develop a deep relationship between us.

We fear to be hurt again. When you risk yourself to others, you become vulnerable. The Latin root of “vulnerable,” means “to wound.” To become vulnerable means to be susceptible to injury, to be exposed to criticism; and this can hurt. In fact many of us have been hurt in the past when we became vulnerable and without knowing, vowed to ourselves that we would never trust again.  But it’s a risk worth taking. “Jump in”, you will never overcome the fear of closeness until you take your “leap into the dark” so to speak.

Protecting our hearts from hurt, by locking them “safely in the coffin of selfishness” will keep them from being broken, but it will also change them. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, and irredeemable. The problem is that we too often make choice to be vulnerable or not by considering the negative consequences that might result from being vulnerable rather than thinking about the positive implications it has to our psychological well-being. That’s the risk we take.

Join my wife and I as we speak during the Citam's He's ministry this Friday between 2:15 and 5:00pm. All you men are invited. Will be talking on Relationships.