He's Conference

This past Friday we were privileged to speak on relationships at one of the workshops at the Citam's He's conference. We had over two thousand men present over there, young and old, married and single. I, Gracie, was the only lady in the room and I must confess I felt overwhelmed. They kept referring to me as "Daniel in the den of Lions".

As Daniel in the Lion's den, I was able to share with this men why we as women want to share with them heart to heart. Why it is important that they launch into the deep with us as that is where we connect with them. Intimacy is not just about sex. We are not interested in shallow and superficial relationships. We shared with them about the CSI of relationships and the importance of them willing to risk and come over with us into the deep waters of meaningful relationship. Deep calls for deep and that is what intimacy is all about.

Then, I, Barnie, identifying with my fellow male species (whose mouths at this time were shut),  helped them realize what blessings we often miss because of our fears. Because of the fear of rejection, fear of failure, or fear of losing control, fear of the unknown, we remain stuck in the shallow waters of relationships. We fear to be vulnerable, to open up ourselves and allow our partners to come into us and see what's in there. That is what intimacy is all about.

Caring enough to share our deepest fears and needs, and sharing openly in a safe environment in order to become intimate is what we referred to us the CSI of relationships. For us to enjoy this depth of relationship in marriage, we as wives must provide a safe environment for our men to open up and be themselves. That safety is the enabling environment for that kind of relationship.