FOUR TYPES OF MEN A SINGLE LADY SHOULD AVOID

 One of the most common causes of discouragement I have heard from many Single Ladies comes from being stuck in a one-way or dead-end relationship.  This is a relationship that is going nowhere or is driven by one party. A surprising number of attractive, talented, and lovable women have locked themselves with men who are not willing to commit.

According to Valerie Clayton, author of the book “Victory in Singleness”, when a man is unwilling to commit, a woman is stuck. She is emotionally depositing her love, energy, and time into someone who is ultimately not a good investment. There are four general types of men that single women need to avoid if they are interested in not misplacing their affection. 

1.   Mr. Procrastination –This man puts off making a serious relational commitment to the woman who loves him until a “more opportunate” time comes along. There is always something that will keep him from committing today. He is either recovering from a previous relationship, or finishing up his MBA, or waiting to make more money, or he has something going on with his parents, or is waiting to buy his first car, house or ‘kaplot’. He just can’t commit to you today

2.       Mr. Confucius – This man is on emotional overload. There is so much going on in his life that he barely exists- much less being marriage material for someone. Generally, he is just getting over an emotional catastrophe, making a life change, trying to “find himself” or he is still taking care of his siblings or a sick Parent.  Whatever it is, the bottom line is that he is trying to get his head on straight.” He forgets to call; frequently when you get together it is at your suggestion.

3.       Mr. Passive – Are you discouraged because your man is “just along for the ride”? He is not leading, but he is not exactly following either. He is just there, yes passively there. You may desire a committed dating relationship with him, but he hasn’t made any “moves”. You are discouraged because you would like your “friendship” to move forward, but the reality is that you are stuck.

4.       Mr. Fantasy – This man is an illusion. He doesn’t really exist except in the figment of your imagination. This is your ideal man, your ultimate dream man. Unfortunately this man does not exist and the sooner you wake up and smell the coffee, the better it will be for you.