Let The Man be The Man

Last Sunday night I watched a beautiful play at the Kenya National Theatre by a group called “Wholesome Entertainment”. The drama was entitled “The Corporate Woman”. This play was brought back by great public demand. What a play it was.

The play dramatizes the challenges encountered in marriage by a corporate woman whose husband has lost his job. The man is not as qualified as his wife who then embarks on a job of trying to help her man get back to his feet. She does so by first sprucing up his cv which is really nothing attractive bearing in mind the man is not highly educated. She tries to use her connections and friends to hook this guy up with a job. Long story short she almost loses her husband to her best friend who has promised to get him a job in Zanzibar.

The man is so harassed that he even looses confidence in himself. In fact the only person who gives him a little confidence is their househelp, who guess what? is a ugandan lady that treats this man royally. She treats him so well that the wife becomes insecure about the househelp.

This story brings out certain truths about men that many women don’t understand. Deep inside every man there is a hero. More than anything else every man wants to succeed in serving and protecting the woman he loves. When he feels trusted, he is able to tap into this noble part of himself. When he doesn’t feel trusted, he loses his confidence like the man in the play and will fall for any other woman who can offer him that feel.

According to Author John Elderidge in his book "wild at heart", deep within every man's heart is the cry "Do I have what it takes?" Therefore whenever the man doesn't feel trusted, or whenever he falls short or fails his woman, that message is amplified in his heart. This is then what drives most men into doing crazy stuff or withdrawing completely.