HOW DO YOU VALUE YOURSELF?

I recently read a post in my LinkedIn page about this Father who gifted her daughter his old wreck of a car to go and sell to start her life. She took the car to a nearby yard and the people there agreed to buy it for $1,000. She then took it to one of her friends who valued it for only $100. Almost giving up, she took it to the boys club and there one of the guys looked at the car, a serious brand though old, and offered her $100,000 for it. When she came back excited with the offer, her Dad told her something profound.

“My daughter, there are people who will value you for only $100, others will value you for $1,000 while there are those who will value you for $100,000, go where you are valued not where people just put up with you.”

That’s a very powerful life lesson. I have seen people who don’t know how much their value is allow themselves to be treated like trash be it at the workplace or in relationships. They fear standing up for themselves lest they lose their job or their relationship. Especially our single ladies, who endure toxic relationships where they are abused mentally and emotionally, sometimes even physically. Yet stick in that relationship for fear of starting all over again or of maintaining status. They don’t want to be seen to be single, OR want so badly to get married that they even go ahead and get married only to live miserably thereafter.

Last week in our blog, we talked about the person you really need to get married to. That person is yourself. Ladies if you don’t value yourself, how do you think someone else will? What we have come to observe in our over 15 years’ experience working with people in their relationships is the way most ladies cheapen themselves just to be in or to remain in a relationship. They feel that a relationship is what gives them value. And so no matter how badly they are treated on those relationships, they remain stuck there. What you desperately need single lady, is to rediscover your value. Because just like that car, it is only those people who really knew its value that were willing to pay the price for it.

Single lady, a guy who does not pursue you, doesn’t call you or just texts you when they want to take you for a date or you go to their place to wash his clothes, don’t value you. A guy who is non-committal, keeps you in suspense and is saying nothing does not value you. A guy who is shy to introduce you to his friends or family, doesn’t value you. You need to know your value and go only where you are valued not where you are just tolerated!