This week I, Barnie, made a decision that cost me dearly. I actually lost some tidy sum of money in the process and I was very disappointed with myself. I called Grace to tell her what had just happened and I could feel the disappointment on her side. But when I got home she received me very well and really encouraged me and helped me pick myself up and move on from where I was. It is definitely not good for a man to be alone and man, wasn't I glad that I had someone who not only understood me but was also so gracious to me in my error.
That brings us to the 6th habit that will destroy your marriage, MAKING DECISIONS WITHOUT CONSULTING YOUR SPOUSE. According to Dave Willis, "Our pride can often convince us that we don’t have to answer to
anyone, and we should be able to make decisions without consulting anyone.
Pride has been the downfall of so many marriages. The healthiest couples have
learned that EVERY decision they make as individuals will have some level of
impact on each other, so they respectfully and thoughtfully consult each other
in every decision."
We couldn't agree with Davis more, whatever decision you make as an individual impacts on your partner. What started off as a small thing ended up a big one and my lesson from
all this is that it is important to consult and make decisions together
as husband and wife. Even in matters that sometimes you feel your partner
isn't well versed in, it's just important to include them and make them
a part of the decision making process. Two are always better than one
for had I roped Grace in on this, knowing Grace very well, I would not
have ended up where I found myself.
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