There were Five Frogs on the side of a pond. Four decided to
jump into the water, how many were left? Think carefully before answering this
question. The immediate answer that comes into your mind is obviously 1, right?
Wrong, the answer is 5. Why? You see we are only told that the Four Frogs
decided to jump into the water but we are not told that they actually did.
Deciding to do something and actually doing it are two
different things. Many times I have got these good intentions to do something
romantic and special for my wife like, take her out for a date night, just take
off from work and hang out with her, or even take her to the movies. But it
remains just that, a good thought, good intentions. I have decided to do it but
don’t follow through to actually do it. And this gap between good intentions
and actualizing them is what differentiates an average marriage from a great
one.
Closing that gap between what you have decided to do
especially after reading a good book or article like this one on marriage, or
even attending a marriage retreat, and actually doing it is what will guarantee
you a great marriage. This is what we help many couples do in coaching them in
their marriages. We have seen that in helping them put their plans on paper and
then holding them accountable to take those action steps helps move their
relationship from one level to another.
So don’t just sit there deciding that you are going to jump
into your water whatever that may look like for you in your marriage. Go the
extra mile and actually do it. Start now, don’t wait for the right time, begin
now to work on your marriage. Know where you want to improve on. Work on specifics;
don’t just say we want a better marriage. Identify the area you want to work
on, find the resources you need to help you improve and then find someone who
can hold you accountable to see you follow through on what you have decided to
work on.
Yours for a better marriage!
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