Principle #3

Maintain a great Attitude.

They say that your attitude not aptitude determines your altitude that is how high you go. I believe that is true also concerning your marriage. Let me ask you, what attitude did you come into marriage with? What is your attitude when things aren’t going the way you expect them to go?

Marriage experts and authors Drs. Les and Leslie Parrot include a positive attitude and outlook toward life as one of the ingredients of a happy marriage. When faced with challenges in their marriage, they view it more as an opportunity for growth than an obstacle. They are optimistic that however tough things are they can be sorted out. They also view their partner positively.

The problem with most marriages is that we have spent so much time in the dark room, having a negative attitude that we have developed a negative image of our partner in that dark room of our lives. So no matter how hard they try we already have this negative image cast in our minds that we constantly bow down to.  We approach our marriage and our spouse with this negative image in mind no wonder we lose that battle even before it starts.

What if we believed the best of our spouse? What if we judged them more for their intentions and we judged ourselves for our actions? How different will our marriages be if only we believed in them and overlooked their faults? Imagine how easy it would be to resolve conflict if only we humbled ourselves and realized that we too could be the cause of the problem. We so often remain stuck in our high and lofty position refusing to come down and say I’m sorry, instead of climbing down to say “You could be right here Babe”. 

Humility is indeed one of the greatest attitudes that is highly needed for our marriages to succeed.