“For
years, I was a driven man. I demanded a lot of myself and of those who worked
for me. My wife didn’t like to call me at work, for as she said, “You have your
work voice on”. In other words your fig leaf is showing. All that swaggering and supposed confidence
and hard charging came out of fear – the fear that if I didn’t, I would be
revealed to be less than a man. Never let down, never drop your guard,
give 150 percent,” says John Elderedge in his book wild at heart.
According to him, achievers
are a socially
acceptable form of violent men, overdoing it in one way or another. Their
casualties tend to be their marriages, their families, and their health or even
spiritual life. These are things that have paralyzed and destroyed many men through the centuries. They are hiding behind their masks for fear of being known for who they really are.
Outwardly like John, they seem to be doing well. But deep inside, they are struggling. They are afraid, they don't know who to talk to. Let me ask you man, who do you talk to when you are struggling with sexual temptation. Whom do you go to when the money you invested has been washed down the drain, or when you get the news that you are one of those who are going to be laid off from your place of work? Who do you go to young man when you are struggling with masturbation?
We as men
need each other now more than ever before. We need to keep the company of men
who can hold us accountable in all areas of our lives, men we can confide in,
men we can share our fears and struggles with. People we feel safe with to
remove our masks and allow into our lives to see us as we really are.Do you have that kind of men or man?
SoMa
It is finally here, the long awaited School of marriage (SoMa) begins next week, October 17th at 6pm. The program will be running for the next eight weeks with classes every Wednesdays from 6-8pm. If you want to be a part of this class please get in touch with us by Monday October 15th.
Call Grace on 0729-237766 for more information.
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