"I HAVE NO MAN"

There are two men in the Bible that had both desperate situations and needed help. One in the book of Mark 2: 1-5; One was a paralytic, had four friends, other men who went to a great length to see him helped. They against all odds brought him to Jesus. Since they could not get to Jesus because of the crowd, they ripped open the roof and lowered him to where Jesus was. The other man in John 5 was invalid for thirty-eight years had no man to help him into the pool when the waters were stirred.

Many men are like the invalid man in John 5, struggling with many issues in their lives and yet have no man they can talk to. They are struggling alone and are almost giving in to their struggles.  Just the other day one young man sought me out and when we eventually got together I could see he was struggling to share with me his struggles. He had tried other men, a close relative, a colleague, and even his Pastor, but he didn’t feel safe enough to share with them his struggles. I quickly ‘disarmed’ him from his fears by making him feel safe and then and only then was he able to share with me what he was going through.

I have been talking on Hope FM on men and their struggles and the thing that has come up time and again is the need for friendship among men.According to David C. Bentall in his book "The company you keep"; "When prioritizing work time, most men tend to regulate friendship to the bottom of the list. They have an established “network” of business contacts and if we want to do lunch with someone, we usually have a reason or an agenda.  We look at these contacts to help us directly or to introduce us to other people. This utilitarian approach to friendships among men is a barrier to developing meaningful relationships with other men." We may have many acquaintances as men, but very few if any true friends, and this is the crisis that we men find ourselves in. 

Join us this Saturday September 29th from 2-5pm at NPC Valley Road for an open forum dubbed "The Marriage Crisis - Those in want out - Those out want in"

This event is open to both married couples and Singles and is absolutely free.